If you recognize Obsessive-compulsive tendencies in yourself, it will be helpful to know your top priority rather than allowing yourself to get caught up in lots of details. Try to avoid making judgements, firstly by paying attention to the negative judgements you make about people and other things. Whenever you catch yourself thinking something negative about someone, purposely try to find two good things about them. When making requests of others, step back and don’t try to take over. Allow others to learn through their own mistakes instead of through your lectures. Acknowledge your own mistakes publicly – the idea here is to learn humility. Allow yourself to goof off. Learn relaxation techniques and commit to using them.

Obsessive-compulsives thrive on always being right. If they hurt your feelings, be direct and tell them so. Keep in mind that 3 criticisms or less from them actually means that you are doing ok in their eyes. Don’t take their criticism personally and don’t criticize their perfectionism. Negotiate for what you want and encourage these perfectionists to maintain perspective. Show them appreciation and acknowledge things that you do learn through them.

Paranoid vampires will benefit from learning how to tolerate ambiguity. Another goal is learning how to forgive perceived betrayals. It is vitally important to understand that some of the things you see or believe to be true may, in reality, not really be there. Try to recognize that what other people do may have very little to do with you. Understand that people are not thinking of you all of the time and this does not mean they are being disloyal, merely being normal. People close to you have parts of their lives that have nothing to do with you, try not to feel threatened by this fact. Allow small transgressions on the part of others to be forgiven. You create anguish for everyone including yourself when you can’t forgive and forget. Allow slights and oversights to be simply that, don’t turn them into betrayals and humiliations.

If you come across a Paranoid vampire, never agree to tests of love. There is no way to prove affection. Never try to deceive a paranoid. They are after your faithfulness. Take their professed pain and hurt seriously, but don’t jump through hoops to try to heal it. Don’t reward their tantrums by listening or fighting back, they can carry on for hours and get you no-where except going around and around and around trying to justify yourself .

Source for the above material:

Albert J. Bernstein, Ph.D.

For further reading;

http://www.albernstein.com/home.htm