Good point about the song, Goth - I think you are right.

Also you are so right that I react to what other people do. I'm very aware of this and I know it's not right, because I can choose how I react; I also realised since the incident the other day that I have *got* to keep my boundaries up and be able to detach better. And when I think, "ok, so there are people coming into my space and doing this or that - why am I attracting this?", the only answer I can come up with is that maybe my boundaries aren't strong enough to begin with. Maybe my psychic sponge-ness really is an open invitation that reads "Free energy party here - come get drunk and spew and don't clean up afterwards! That's cool!" ........ I think some affirmations are in order. The weird thing is that people really seem to *want* to get into my space, and I really appreciate the people/friends/family who don't do that. Thank you for casting a little more light on this!!!

Hey this is something I am affected by too. Boundaries are a big ongoing issue for me. And like you, I came to the realisation that if I don't enforce them then I get very messed up by allowing people to come in and drain my energy. That's when I become reactive instead of proactive and relationships get strained or worse - I get stuck in unhealthy situations. Being sensitive makes it worse. We do attract alot of stuff to ourselves merely by the fact that we sense and feel alot more deeply than most other people who would probably not be so affected by the same experiences. Geez, I can have a negative encounter with someone and carry the residue of it for days or even weeks constantly thinking and reacting to it and losing so much energy to the situation long after it has ended physically. There's one particular past relationship that still affects me this way to the point that the feelings are so raw it is like I am still in the situation and trying to get out.

Like you, I search for positive tools to turn it around and I think affirmations are a start. We do have to bolster ourselves with new messages to replace the negative tapes that keep us stuck. My problem is worrying about where a situation might have gone even when it didn't. I have to learn to disconnect and let go - when it's over, it's over and move on. Don't keep torturing myself with unfounded fears that will not eventuate into reality. I try to tell myself that every situation is an opportunity for learning and try to find a positive to take away from it even if it is 'well now I know where my boundaries need to be'. It pays to be vigilant because let's face it - nobody else is going to nurture your inner self. We all need to be our own guardian and show ourselves the unconditional love of a parent to a child, protecting and empowering that part of ourselves that has to live in the real world and deal with these situations as they come along.

Yessss, I know how you feel! It is sometimes really annoying being a sensitive person, when I look at other people just getting on with their lives and not having experiences like getting disoriented and confused because you're near someone with crown chakra issues... or getting ungrounded because you're walking beside someone who's head/energy is in the clouds... or spilling your drink because you touched your friend who just happened to spill their drink 2 seconds ago... I just pick it all up and experience it... So for me it's probably not only my boundaries, but also an issue of grounding and centering. And then there's the fact that I'm what a psychic friend of mine called a 'lightweight' - literally and figuratively; my physical size (I'm an elf-like 5'2" and naturally tiny) sorta goes hand in hand with how I experience the world... ie it doesn't take much of anything to affect me; food, drink, relaxant, stimulant, heat, cold, bodywork, you name it I'm sensitive to it. No wonder I love getting out of my body and having good times in my dreams/on the astral plane!