This very conflict between what we 'should' do and what we want to do is connected with the transitioning of our planet. The goal in life is to be happy. When we do something that compromises that, we know it and we feel it energetically and we rebel against it. More people are having the courage to break with the unreal reality based in logic and taking up their path with bliss. This is affecting the group consciousness and raising the vibration for everyone. One side affect is that people who have yet to make the leap feel the pull to lit go of the 'shoulds' in their lives and simply 'be' who they really are

Gem you are such a sweet heart each and every one of you... I would love to explain in detail but for now I have to bite really hard...

Thank you TGWB! I don't know how I'm a sweetheart though when I just want to be selfish right now... but you're piquing my curiosity with why you have to bite your tongue???

You reckon, Goth? But what if we are happier if we don't have to deal with other people's unhappiness?? Shouldn't (there's that word again) we all be wanting to help each other?? And what if your help or involvement is something that is necessary for another person to feel happy because they cannot do things or be happy for themselves? Or because they feel inadequate and your becoming more involved with their life would help that? This is why I feel like a bad person, because at present I want to be left alone and I am putting up boundaries that give me MY time, but I also feel that it's at others' expense. I think I burned out of 'unconditional' helping a long time ago..... or maybe I'm just tired.

If someone else needs you to make them feel good, then that person needs to detach and do some work on themselves. There's only one person who can truly bring us inner peace and happiness - and that's ourselves! By modelling self love you are doing other people a great service - you are helping by being a living example of wholeness. That is healthy! Taking up the slack so someone else can avoid their soul work is not healthy nor helpful to anyone. One thing I learnt when my first child was born, was to look after myself first and my baby second. I was horrified when the child health nurse told me this - how could I put myself, a grown adult before a helpless newborn? Then she explained, that if I didn't and I fell down out of tiredness or not having my needs met, then that baby would not survive - it needed me to be healthy and well so it would thrive and grow. Think about how much more prone to accidents and mistakes we are when we do not rest or give ourselves space?

It is not spiritual to be a victim or a martyr. Yes, it is good to be in service to others - but by our own choice, not because we have to be or feel made to. If service to others does not bring you joy, then it is not being done for the highest good of all. And this is important. Being selfless is not about sacrificing ourselves for someone else. It is about sharing our joy with others. Sharing the truth of our being. Perhaps religion has brought in this idea of guilt and redemption and constriction attached to being in service to others, but it has nothing to do with unconditional love. Unconditional love begins within. You would not force someone else to do something they didn't want to do, so why expect it of ourselves? Sometimes other people are struggling because they chose to so they can learn their soul lessons through their struggles...not to have someone else come along and prop them up. That just creates karmic debt and setbacks for the person who avoided the lessons they were supposed to learn. You can have compassion and empathy without becoming corded to that person. The important thing now is to be the change we want to see in this world - be strong, light-filled, joyful, unconditionally loving individuals anchoring the higher frequencies here on earth and helping others through our example to also become the same. Hold out your hand to them in connection, not to pull them up. At the same time, embrace yourself

That does make me feel a lot better...........

mutual self-benefit sparks a domino effect ... its a vibration.

just like in the political/economic world, but it is so much grander to think of it in the context goth has provided. Imagine the possibilities.

Reminds me of this song:

Well put Goth and I'm glad that I piqued your curiosity but rest assured I know there is a future time when I will be free and we have to wait until then.

well i take it that Harmony and Gem are not in a happy relationship.Is this the case?

lol well I can't speak for Harmonygirl, but mine could do with some improvements!

Sounds like you had an out of body experience for sure. Perhaps the alcohol did help induce it. The whole idea of the akashic records is overwhelming to me. I've had dreams about them, I think, where I was standing in the midst of millions, perhaps billions of some kind of data cartridges that were stacked up very high. There was another I had, but I can't really describe it. The common factor is that I was very small, micro sized. Like an insect walking around in a mansion.